being a different person befor and behind the public stage

Just as a sculpture needs carved, a man needs portrayed. In order to be outstanding and different, memorable and impressive, everybody will show out its special image after a careful grooming, especially for some situations. What we can see over those occasions are always not the original images, but the ones shown up after a wonderful makeover. People tend to show their public selves over public occasion to sculpture their special, unique, perfect image, and so do I.

In order to cater for others’ interest and favorite, some people will pretend to be addicted in their ongoing conversation. For example, during a music concert, no matter whether he is familiar with or not, some certain groups of people will pretend to be adept in those pieces of music and their authors to conceal their ignorance in music. Attending a party which is held by a less talkative host who is deeper and reserved, you may be careful of your words and think about whether it is the proper time to give out your personal opinion. Sometimes, you even need to pretend to be a shy person who is like a man with an axe to grind. On the contrary, if the host is outgoing and energetic, then less talk and deficient compliment only means you don’t fully respect the host which shows your impolite and bad manner.

To gloss over themselves, some people tend to curb their tempers. To hide their emotions, they can be hard to read and penetrated. They won’t laugh and cry fiercely, even if they are extremely delighted and broken-hearted. If they are in happiness, they will only give out a piece of light smile and then go back to calm. Similarly, if they fall in deep sorrow and misery, they will merely whimper for a while instead of crying out and blaming for the God’s cold-blood and helplessness.

In my culture, people won’t show their affection unreservedly in public. They will carefully express their own feelings. At most, they will give each other a hug and a light kiss. However they can give each other a soul kiss and do whatever they want at home. This huge diversity is all because they have to consider their public images and others’ comment.

In light of the above examples, people tend to sculpture their public selves which are different from private selves. Considering their public images, they have to carefully behave; being outstanding and impressive, they have to act differently; being welcomed people, they have to cater for others’ interest and favorite. All about these are for only one purpose, that is, to shape their positive public image and being themselves naturally in private.